"Underneath all the distress, couples are asking each other: Can I count on you, depend on you? Are you there for me? Will you respond to me when I need, when I call?"
Dr. Sue Johnson, Therapist
More than great communication. Building a deeper connection with one another through Christ.
Marriage is hard work. Happy and healthy relationships don't just happen on their own. Even with pre-marital counseling, prayer, and the support of a church family the first few years of your marriage can be challenging. Feeling distant from each other, experiencing conflict, being confused and frustrated at times is normal. However, if left unaddressed, these patterns become habits that rob your marriage of the joy God has in store for you.
The good news is that marriage problems are part of God's plan for renovating your heart and redeeming our experience of love. The pain you're experiencing is an invitation to transformation and growth. Marriage exposes our deepest needs for one another and brings our weaknesses front and center. Marriage also provides the intimacy, commitment, and security to heal old wounds and experience a new kind of love.
In therapy, I'll help guide you through more effective ways of understanding each other and your relationship. My approach is down to earth, realistic, and tailored to meet you where you're at. Some of the goals that couples often work toward include:
- Improving communication, decreasing conflict, and instilling hope.
- Overcoming the obstacles and patterns that keep you stuck and disconnected.
- Providing an intentional time and safe place to talk about the health of your marriage and goals for the future.
- Understanding how your emotional needs for security and comfort drive the pulling away, criticizing, conflict, and silence in your marriage.
If you think we'd be a good fit for counseling, I'd love to meet with you and talk more about how I can help. Feel free to give me a call at 714.694.3930 or send me an email at brian@brianolsentherapy.com to schedule a no-charge consultation.
Looking forward to meeting you,
-Brian